This Has Everything to Do With You (Personal)
<table><tr><td>JW is the father of my as of yet unborn baby. J and I met in Chicago circa 2011. Early on he identified as a queer, politically driven eccentric. A year into our friendship, we decided to enter into a consensual albeit drunken (at the time) sexscapade. It is at this time that W and I conceived the new love of my life, the forthcoming Sabrina Madeline.
Sabrina Madeline (due early 2013) will likely never have a true, meaningful relationship with her father. From the beginning, I knew I wanted to be a strong, independent, single mother. No Boyfriends! No Bosses! I did however reach out to W in an effort to at first notify him I was pregnant, and also to ask if he would want to be part of the baby’s life. W expressed admiration that I was keeping our baby. He also said he would be part of the baby’s (and inextricably from my) life. This conversation first took place in June of the current year. I really wish for our (me and baby’s) sake he had kept his words of praise and support: “I want to be part of their life.” </td><td><img title="accountability" src="http://anarchistnews.org/files/pictures/2012/suntree.jpg"></td></tr></ta...
This isn’t the case. The last time we had any contact was in July 2012.It is not that I am angry that my baby will be born without a father cause fuck fathers. It makes me angry that JW continues to propagate this image of anarchist rock star through Facebook (and probably Twitter) yet not have enough time to reach out to me or inquire about the well-being of our child, like he used to. How can this man who claims to believe in dismantling all systems of control and oppression (including but certainly not limited to gender roles) simply ignore his responsibility to not just me but his daughter? If he believes in accountability and addressing points of contention why will he not even return Facebook messages that are directly asking for at the very least (and probably most importantly) emotional support? I know (and if you’re his “Friend” you do too) that he’s posting and organizing through Facebook all of the time. JW evidently does not stand for a great security culture or a culture of emotional support.
Ultimately, I want to address through this Anarchist News the fact that he is rolling around with his friends of radicals trying to build this culture of resistance and community and at the same time evading his unborn daughter. If this radical wants people to work with him and trust him, he should address what I perceive to be his most immediate responsibility, Sabrina Madeline (yes J that’s her name).
Directly: I wouldn’t be so angry at you if you had been honest with me from the beginning as to your intentions with me and your child. You have shown you have no respect for female bodies (because you continue to ignore me and your daughter). You weren’t there for me mentally, physically, or financially. With 10 weeks left for the Birth of Sabrina, I am still working full time for minimum wage trying to support myself and give our daughter the most nutritious of foods. You have left me no choice but to shame you publically because you ignore me. And no, selfishness is not a virtue. Have fun dismantling capitalism and patriarchy while you leave me and your daughter to navigate these treacherous Midwestern terrains, especially in such uncertain times, without even a single word.
No Gods! No Masters! No Boyfriends! No Deadbeats!
-Fembots Have Feelings , Too.
P.S. I HAVE A BABY INSIDE OF ME---I DON’T CARE ABOUT YOUR ANARCHO FRIENDS!