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"When I began shedding these behaviors, I became more open and comfortable with the people around me. Rather than adhering to these strict rules, we felt free to communicate our individual desires. I could tell my friends that they could touch me freely, without feeling obligated to ask me each time. I could assure them that if I didn’t want to be touched at a particular time or in a particular way, I would communicate that to them. "

Ok... So you went on shredding these bahaviours apart, AFTER you and friends gained success at these identity games, without actively fighting ID pols in your interactions. Once you created social capital for your private gang through these exclusion politics, you could live the communal freedom inside your l33t group.

WELCOME.... to the liberal lifestyles of millions of westerners!